Monthly Archives: September 2016

You are not your sexuality

‘Christians are to blame for gay teenagers killing themselves,’ we’ve heard in the media. This is why many people don’t want a plebiscite for same-sex marriage. And, if it’s having this effect, many Christians begin to change their view on homosexuality.

In response, we must acknowledge the tragedy of youth suicide because of sexuality. And we Christians have to acknowledge we haven’t always shown the love of Christ when speaking about homosexuality. Let’s work harder to be loving to all people.

However, it is a tragedy that our world preaches ‘you are your sexuality’ and so you must be sexually fulfilled to be human. Identity is sexuality.

To build your identity on sexuality is like building a two-storey house with balsa wood – it can’t support the weight of life. Maybe our world is more responsible for gay teenage suicides than it wants to admit?!

The gospel is the good news that all our happiness is not dependant on our sexuality. Wholeness comes from knowing and being reconciled to the Father through Jesus.

Today we hear from Sam Allberry as he shares his story about being a same-sex attracted Christian (https://vimeo.com/166545553).

In Christ, Tory Cayzer.

Same-Sex Marriage: Let’s talk equality!

The argument for same-sex marriage has cleverly been called ‘marriage equality’. But is this really about equality?

We need to listen to and recognise that same-sex couples ask for recognition, acceptance, and belonging. These are perfectly good and understandable human concerns. And marriage does make a relationship official and recorded in history.

However, I don’t think marriage is the answer.

Let’s talk about civil unions and a ‘Relationships Register’ at government level to recognise and record relationships of any description using a wedding service of any form.

The problem with arguing same-sex marriage is about marriage equality, is that it fails to recognise that there are other relationships restricted from marriage. For example, polygamous, polyamorous, or even underage or incestuous relationships.

Further, it fails to recognise the equal rights of a child to be nurtured by their father and mother.

These are issues we need to be talking about in the debate… if this is really about equality.

Even more, let’s be talking about the recognition, acceptance, and peace Jesus offers. Only he can give what our world seeks. God equally invites all to the foot of the Cross.

In Christ, Tory Cayzer.

Marriage: for the good of society.

The strongest argument for same-sex marriage (SSM) is: ‘Why shouldn’t you be able to marry the person you love?’

This question is powerful, but it assumes marriage is just recognition of love and personal happiness.

Traditional marriage is for the purposes of procreation, holy living with natural instincts, and lifelong faithful companionship.

The marriage of a man and a woman is the one relationship on earth with the power to create and nurture one’s own children. This relationship deserves its own name and status as the basis of humanity’s ongoing story.

That’s not to say there is no place for love in marriage, of course! But marriage is far bigger than love. It is for the good of society. It’s not a private issue, it’s very public.

For this reason there are gay people who oppose SSM, and ancient cultures very happy with same-sex relationships but completely against SSM.

In Christ, Tory Cayzer.